All posts by Parenting For Good Mental Health

Hello, My name is Tricia. I am the proud mom of two amazing young men. My youngest son was always a very energetic and highly reactive child. Life with him was often like a roller coaster ride. He had to work very hard to learn how to manage his emotions and behaviors. By the time he turned 10, he had learned to manage them fairly well. But one night while watching the movie The Mummy, his anxiety was triggered. Night after night, he just could not get the scary images out of his head. This went on for almost a year where he would cry in bed at night. Nothing we tried seemed to help. So we decided to take him to see a psychiatrist where he was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, and bipolar disorder. Unfortunately, the care and medications that he received from various professionals did not really help. By educating myself, I began to learn that there were many more options that had not been provided or suggested. I believe that had I had more information sooner; his care could have been better tailored to his needs. This was a very difficult time not only for my son but for our entire family. We had to develop new ways of interacting that did not cause fights over the littlest things. We had to learn the hard way what not to do in a crisis. My husband had to learn that you don’t have to have a reason to be depressed or anxious. Sometimes you just are. And that it is not helpful to say to a depressed person, that they have no reason to be depressed. Having never experienced these feelings himself, my husband really struggled with understanding these things. But now that he gets it, he wishes he would have understood sooner so he could have been more supportive to our son in the beginning. Thankfully, our son has found his own way through the darkness. And he has developed some skills and tools for managing his mental illness. He is successfully working a fulltime job and even has his own place. I am very proud of all that he has achieved. But his path could have been easier and less painful for him had we known about these other options sooner. As parents and caregivers we need to educate ourselves on their illnesses and the evidence based care options that are out there. We have a limited number of clinicians that treat children and teens, so we sometimes only get to see them once a month. What kind of impact do you think you could have on your child if you only saw him once a month? We need to bring as much to the table as possible. The clinicians can only work with the information they are given. The more you can tell them the better they will be able to tailor your child’s care to his needs. We also need to know how to be the parents our child needs because what works for other kids does not always work for ours. I would like to help educate others so that their path to recovery might be made shorter. There is a lot of support out there, but sometimes we do not hear about it. NAMI is the first support that I will recommend. NAMI the National Alliance on Mental Illness is the largest grassroots mental health organization in America. Through NAMI you will find support and education that can help you to better facilitate the care your child needs. https://www.nami.org/

Five Tips ​on Remaining Connected with Your Teen:

  Tell them you love them randomly several times a day. When they are in need of feedback, let them know that you only want good things for them. Say something encouraging each day. They still need your positive feedback. Reminisce about your favorite memories of them. Let them hear you talking positively about them ...

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4 Tips to Avoid Being a Mean Mommy

Originally posted here By: Grace Cross Twitter: @grace_cross1000 We all have met them. That mom, who is judgmental, has a problem with every other mother’s parenting practices, gossiping about fami… Source: 4 Tips to Avoid Being a Mean Mommy

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Do not be that person:

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people judge another person’s parenting skills. There are so many things that go into making us the parents that we are. Sometimes we are trying to do things differently than how we were raised. Sometimes despite wanting to do things differently we unknowingly fall into the same ...

Don’t Wait Until You Are Drowning to Learn How to Swim:

I know as my teen goes storming out of the house that our fight could have been heard several houses away in our quiet neighborhood. I worry about where he is going, and what he will be doing. It won’t be anything good with him in this state of mind. Do you ever wish you ...

Stop Adding to Their Pain:

People who self-harm often run into some pretty strong reactions. Some people seem to think it is okay to give a look of disgust after noticing the tell-tale markings. They also completely change the way that they treat that person, like their self-harm has anything to do with whether they are a good person or ...

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Mother and Daughter: An (In)Complete History of (Almost) Suicide — Discover

“Suicide was not a ‘truth’ I held dear. . . . With help and effort, I have learned to distinguish between my own, actual beliefs and that other voice that is just a misfire occurring in my brain.” Amy Bee discovers that she doesn’t want to die. via Mother and Daughter: An (In)Complete History of (Almost) ...

Do Not Be This Person

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people judge another person’s parenting skills. There are so many things that go into making us the parents that we are. Sometimes we are trying to do things differently than how we were raised. Sometime despite wanting to do things differently we unknowingly fall into the same ...

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One Mom’s Experience with Unschooling

https://redheadmom8.wordpress.com/2016/04/26/speaking-from-experience-an-honest-discussion-about-unschooling/

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Why Should We Homeschool?- Part 8- Learning from Life

Originally posted on There's No Place Like Home:
Image courtesy of AKARAKINGDOMS at FreeDigitalPhotos.net It’s pretty fortuitous that I’m sitting here writing about learning from life when that’s exactly what I’ve been doing here for the past hour. My laptop hasn’t been cooperating today, and my tech repairman (my son) isn’t home, so this…

Local Homeschool Group: Rockford, IL

Are you looking for a homeschool group that is  organized amazingly well, not just hit and miss meet ups? Then you should check out Rockford’s own Hallstrom Homeschool Workshops. Where preschoolers through high schoolers are welcome to sign up for classes of their interest. Be sure to review rules and guidlines before contacting them to ...