All posts by Parenting For Good Mental Health

Hello, My name is Tricia. I am the proud mom of two amazing young men. My youngest son was always a very energetic and highly reactive child. Life with him was often like a roller coaster ride. He had to work very hard to learn how to manage his emotions and behaviors. By the time he turned 10, he had learned to manage them fairly well. But one night while watching the movie The Mummy, his anxiety was triggered. Night after night, he just could not get the scary images out of his head. This went on for almost a year where he would cry in bed at night. Nothing we tried seemed to help. So we decided to take him to see a psychiatrist where he was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, and bipolar disorder. Unfortunately, the care and medications that he received from various professionals did not really help. By educating myself, I began to learn that there were many more options that had not been provided or suggested. I believe that had I had more information sooner; his care could have been better tailored to his needs. This was a very difficult time not only for my son but for our entire family. We had to develop new ways of interacting that did not cause fights over the littlest things. We had to learn the hard way what not to do in a crisis. My husband had to learn that you don’t have to have a reason to be depressed or anxious. Sometimes you just are. And that it is not helpful to say to a depressed person, that they have no reason to be depressed. Having never experienced these feelings himself, my husband really struggled with understanding these things. But now that he gets it, he wishes he would have understood sooner so he could have been more supportive to our son in the beginning. Thankfully, our son has found his own way through the darkness. And he has developed some skills and tools for managing his mental illness. He is successfully working a fulltime job and even has his own place. I am very proud of all that he has achieved. But his path could have been easier and less painful for him had we known about these other options sooner. As parents and caregivers we need to educate ourselves on their illnesses and the evidence based care options that are out there. We have a limited number of clinicians that treat children and teens, so we sometimes only get to see them once a month. What kind of impact do you think you could have on your child if you only saw him once a month? We need to bring as much to the table as possible. The clinicians can only work with the information they are given. The more you can tell them the better they will be able to tailor your child’s care to his needs. We also need to know how to be the parents our child needs because what works for other kids does not always work for ours. I would like to help educate others so that their path to recovery might be made shorter. There is a lot of support out there, but sometimes we do not hear about it. NAMI is the first support that I will recommend. NAMI the National Alliance on Mental Illness is the largest grassroots mental health organization in America. Through NAMI you will find support and education that can help you to better facilitate the care your child needs. https://www.nami.org/

It is when your child is the hardest to love that they need it the most.

We all desire love and acceptance from our family, these are basic human needs. We need to feel worthy and that we belong somewhere. Does your child truly feel they belong to your family? Do they believe that they are loved and cherished even at their worst? Try to look at events from your child’s ...

The Importance of Record Keeping

By keeping records of our children's care, we can help them receive better care along the way.

Getting Help for Your Child’s Mental Health Struggles

It can be difficult to know where to go for your child’s mental health problems. Here I will give you information that will get you and your child on the right path. If you have not already had your child evaluated, you should make an appointment with a child psychologist. It should be a psychologist/therapist/LCPC/psychiatrists ...

You Need a Support Team

Finding the right people to include in your child’s care and support team can be like getting central air in the dead heat of an Arizona summer. These people can bring some much-needed air for you and your child to be able to breathe again. There were many decisions that I made that I now ...

Let Go of Your Guilt and Come Out of the Darkness:

Originally posted on parentingforgoodmentalhealth.com:
I have only just recently come out of a pretty dark place. I felt as though I didn’t even have the energy to just exist day to day moment to moment. It was a place where I could not even empathize with the pain I would leave behind if I…

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New information on Self-care

via Fight Burnout and Compassion Fatigue With Lots of Self-care Ideas

Don’t Wait Until You Are Drowning to Learn How to Swim:

Originally posted on parentingforgoodmentalhealth.com:
I know as my teen goes storming out of the house that our fight could have been heard several houses away in our quiet neighborhood. I worry about where he is going, and what he will be doing. It won’t be anything good with him in this state of mind.…

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Five Tips ​on Remaining Connected with Your Teen:

https://parentingforgoodmentalhealth.com/2016/09/06/five-tips-%e2%80%8bon-remaining-connected-with-your-teen/

How Pretty Little Liars helped me

You may be surprised to learn that having a child diagnosed with a mental illness can cause you to go through the five stages of grieving, these are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You will not necessarily experience them in order, and you may move in and out of them more than once. I ...