It is important to know and understand what type of therapy your child’s clinician is trained in and utilizes. Not all therapies are created equal, so you should try and find a clinician who uses evidenced-based therapies of which there are many. There are people who are in therapy much longer than necessary because the approach being used just doesn’t work.
I wish we had known about the different types of therapies available. Although my son had some very caring clinicians, they were not very effective. It just wasn’t the care he needed. By the time I had learned about these EBT, he was old enough to decide that he wasn’t going to go anymore. But the clinician that I did find by searching for someone specifically trained in DBT was very good. He was well educated in various EBT’s he was also very intuitive. I wish my son had stuck it out with him.
What types are out there? For starters, there are CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), DBT Dialectical behavioral therapy, BSFT (brief strategic family therapy), and MDT (mode deactivation therapy, just to name a few. There are many options out there so do your homework and see what you think would be a good fit
I believe a family component is always necessary and was sorely missing in my son’s care. No matter how great your family is, it can be thrown into chaos and dysfunction when trying to handle atypical child behaviors that often push us past what we feel we can handle. This frequently causes a cycle of behaviors and misunderstandings that make it very difficult for our children to recover. They often times feel ostracized by their parents and siblings. But in order to make progress, they have to feel loved and accepted in their homes. Remember this does not make you a bad parent if this has happened in your home. We can only learn and do the best that we can. Also, when each member of the family understands the struggle your child is going through, it can create a much more supportive environment for them.
I have provided links below to full descriptions of the therapies listed here. This is only a very small list of what is available. Do your due diligence and make sure that the clinician you choose is highly skilled and trained in an evidenced based therapy.
https://beckinstitute.org/get-informed/what-is-cognitive-therapy/
https://behavioraltech.org/resources/faqs/dialectical-behavior-therapy-dbt/
https://archives.drugabuse.gov/TXManuals/BSFT/BSFT2.html
http://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2014-38134-005.html
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Hello,
My name is Tricia. I am the proud mom of two amazing young men.
My youngest son was always a very energetic and highly reactive child. Life with him was often like a roller coaster ride. He had to work very hard to learn how to manage his emotions and behaviors. By the time he turned 10, he had learned to manage them fairly well. But one night while watching the movie The Mummy, his anxiety was triggered. Night after night, he just could not get the scary images out of his head. This went on for almost a year where he would cry in bed at night. Nothing we tried seemed to help. So we decided to take him to see a psychiatrist where he was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, depression, OCD, and bipolar disorder.
Unfortunately, the care and medications that he received from various professionals did not really help. By educating myself, I began to learn that there were many more options that had not been provided or suggested. I believe that had I had more information sooner; his care could have been better tailored to his needs. This was a very difficult time not only for my son but for our entire family. We had to develop new ways of interacting that did not cause fights over the littlest things. We had to learn the hard way what not to do in a crisis. My husband had to learn that you don’t have to have a reason to be depressed or anxious. Sometimes you just are. And that it is not helpful to say to a depressed person, that they have no reason to be depressed. Having never experienced these feelings himself, my husband really struggled with understanding these things. But now that he gets it, he wishes he would have understood sooner so he could have been more supportive to our son in the beginning.
Thankfully, our son has found his own way through the darkness. And he has developed some skills and tools for managing his mental illness. His path could have been easier and less painful for him had we known about these other options sooner.
As parents and caregivers we need to educate ourselves on their illnesses and the evidence based care options that are out there. We have a limited number of clinicians that treat children and teens, so we sometimes only get to see them once a month. What kind of impact do you think you could have on your child if you only saw him once a month? We need to bring as much to the table as possible. The clinicians can only work with the information they are given. The more you can tell them the better they will be able to tailor your child’s care to his needs. We also need to know how to be the parents our child needs because what works for other kids does not always work for ours.
I would like to help educate others so that their path to recovery might be made shorter. There is a lot of support out there, but sometimes we do not hear about it. NAMI is the first support that I will recommend.
NAMI the National Alliance on Mental Illness is the largest grassroots mental health organization in America. Through NAMI you will find support and education that can help you to better facilitate the care your child needs. https://www.nami.org/
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